I couldn't stand my mother from the time I turned 12, she favored my brother to the point of where it was obvious to everyone but her. She put me down, ignored me, she did nothing but scream at me and I just felt like I had to get out of there. I kept running away, eventually child services got involve and I told them I refused to go home. I was put in foster care. I had a few crappy foster homes but eventually found a great one, even though I was only with them from the time I was 14 until I was 16 (when I finished highschool and became emancipated) I kept in touch and lived in their house while I attended college. It was through my chosen family that I met my husband and gained yet another wonderful family. When I got married my husband tried to get me to reconnect with my family - I hadn't seen them nor spoken to any of them since I was 12. I began writing letters and exchanging phone calls with an aunt, my brother, grandmother, and a few cousins. When my first child was born I sent announcements to all of my biological family, even my mom. Over the last 6 years I have slowly integrated myself back into my family - though things are still strained with my mother.
Recently my mother told me my husband wasn't worth a dime, that he was...well she used lots of explicit words and phrases. She heard through the family grapevine that he has a criminal record for theft, assault, and other petty crimes. I believe my mother may have had a flashback to her own past when she was involved with a man who had a similar criminal record except he also dealt drugs and left her after getting her pregnant with my older brother. She's in one of her "moods" now every time I see her and I can understand if she'd met him from the beginning and knew of his past then she'd have a reason to worry but he's proven himself - he has a career, he's faithful and loving, an amazing dad, he even does volunteer work without a court order. We've been married for 7 years, we have 4 kids and are trying for a 5th. I don't want my mother's negative attitude or comments to be heard by my children, but at the same time I know she's loving being a grandma so I know it'll make her views worse if I cut her off right now.
Asked by Anonymous at 6:22 PM on Feb. 26, 2011 in Relationships
Answer by babygirl0782 at 6:30 PM on Feb. 26, 2011
Answer by RentaMom at 6:35 PM on Feb. 26, 2011
Answer by gammie at 6:50 PM on Feb. 26, 2011