How do I unspoil my 4 month old?

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  Answered at 11:16 AM on Nov. 20, 2008 by: babycakes254
  
  I do not like the cry it out method. Please hold, cuddle, and love your baby. You have a very good doctor. They are not telling you a lie, holding your child DOES teach them security. I'm sorry but I do not, and will not ever believe that you can "spoil" a baby. Try attachment parenting.
• Answered at 11:17 AM on Nov. 20, 2008 by: Krysta622
  
  She's 4 months old. Her wants are her needs. She needs love. She's not spoiled, she's a baby.
• Answered at 11:22 AM on Nov. 20, 2008 by: babycakes254
  
  http://www.askdrsears.com/html/10/t130300.asp
  http://www.parentingweb.com/ap/ap_index.htm
• Answered at 11:31 AM on Nov. 20, 2008 by: bugandsmiles
  
  She is not spoiled at this age they just really need loving time. It's a securtiy thing right now. Trust me take it now while she still want s to cuddle. If the habit continues past when she is able to walk then you might need to ween her from the clingyness. Until then enjoy the fact that she is so cuddly.
• Answered at 11:32 AM on Nov. 20, 2008 by: Kennadismom
  
  i heard it is not possible to spoil a baby under the age of 9 months because they dont necessarily put 2 and 2 together yet like if i cry mommy will pick me up. at least thats what my doctor said, he also told me it is not good for the central nervous system of a baby under the age of 6 mos to cry it out. good luck!
• Answered at 11:33 AM on Nov. 20, 2008 by: nicholelpb
  
  a baby can never be too spoiled! When our DD was born we never put her down...She was always held. Insead of leaving her in the carseat or stroller she was always in the sling against me or daddy. She is a baby and needs that love and security. Now my daughter is 2 and we can barely give her kisses without her running off! So please hold your baby 20 min. is too long to let her cry out.
• Answered at 11:35 AM on Nov. 20, 2008 by: CarieP
  
  I also do not believe in the Cry it out Method..I think it is really mean. My baby is not spoiled. And at 4 months old?? I believe that at 4 months old a baby does need to feel its mama holding it and loving it all the time!! However, I just want my son to feel as much love from myself and his father as possible!!
• Answered at 11:38 AM on Nov. 20, 2008 by: angeladh82
  
  But, oh your doctor was soooo right!!! There are a number of studies that even show the physiological benefits from loving and touching. You will even find studies that show the harm that CIO can and will cause. Do as all the above posters say and just hold and love your baby, you won't regret it. Get a sling, you will enjoy that too.
• Answered at 11:39 AM on Nov. 20, 2008 by: louise2
  

  The baby understands the differants between being held and not being held. That is spoiled in my book. Your just going to have to slowly get her use to not being held as much. Do you have a swing. That might help.
• Answered at 11:45 AM on Nov. 20, 2008 by: angeladh82
  
  At 4mo a baby does not have the capacity to understand cause and effect. She understands that she wants her mother's smell near her and that is a need. It is not spoiling her. Wanting to be held, is a need for her to be loved, and not spoiled....... do your own research.

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