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what the text said

To those of u who wanted to know what the text said ...she was telling him i understand if u don't want to hang out with me but what u did was really shi**y.. she was asking him like what are u doing.. r we hanging out tonight.. thinkgs like that.. and this wasn't the first time i found her number about a month ago i seen it in his phone and he said it was his buddy Joe texting him from her phone that they were talking...so when i text her the other morning she did say that she was dating one of his friends a few months ago and they all used to hang out.. and i asked her so why are u texting my man now she said if she would have known we were together she wouldnt have text him so how do i know he isn't lieing about me we've known eachother for 5 yrs and have been together for 3 of those years..... i don't know what to do i love him sooo much and he has never given me reason to believe he was cheating before...

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newbaby19

Asked by newbaby19 at 11:50 AM on Nov. 20, 2008 in Relationships

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  • Tell him you don't feel comfortable with him texting her anymore. Tell him you talked to her and ask him why he didn't tell her about you. If he gets caught hiding her texts again it'll be time for you decide wheather you'll be able to trust him or not.
    bugandsmiles

    Answer by bugandsmiles at 11:53 AM on Nov. 20, 2008

  • He could be telling you the truth, and if she was really messing around with your SO she wouldn't care about your feelings and would rub it in your face. Just speak to him about the situation and explain how u feel and that you are not comfortable with their friendship, and if she continues to text or call him, then let her know how you feel about her and about texting your man. Try to be more understanding and not jump to conclusions. You don't want to mess up a good thing when it could turn out to be nothing, or something totally innocent. Good luck and stay strong babe.
    ms.busybody

    Answer by ms.busybody at 11:57 AM on Nov. 20, 2008

  • Looks to me she was TRYING to put a guilt trip on him.  I believe he could be telling you the truth. Women now a days a very pushy and don't care if there is a suggnificant other. You spoke to her, now tell him you did. Keep an eye on his phone and if she texts him again, text her back "like if you are him" and tell her you aren't interested in someone who doesn't care that he is invovled in a relationship. Press send and see what she has to say if you can. If he finds out and gets bitter with you then you will see he does have an interest in her and that's your key to open the door and leave.


    If she now knows you are in his life and she has any class she will go find someone else to text.

    Anonymous

    Answer by Anonymous at 12:04 PM on Nov. 20, 2008

  • This should've read


    Keep an eye on his phone and if she texts him again, text her back "like if you are him" and tell her you aren't interested in "someone that's a FRIEND" who doesn't care that he is invovled in a relationship. Press send and see what she has to say if you can.

    Anonymous

    Answer by Anonymous at 12:06 PM on Nov. 20, 2008

  • Isn't this a good enough reason that he is cheating? why do women want to live in denial? It doesn't matter what he says, it's what is happening. there are girls out there who know that they guy they are seeing is with someone and they don't care. if u confront them, they will deny it
    Anonymous

    Answer by Anonymous at 12:11 PM on Nov. 20, 2008

  • i've told my dh that lorena bobbet was too nice, if he ever cheats on me i will take his balls and put them in the blender... lol dont put up with that. everyone deserves more, just let him know that if he does cheat it will rain fire, whatever that means to you.
    AmaliaD

    Answer by AmaliaD at 12:11 PM on Nov. 20, 2008

  • i think that he is telling you the truth. nowadays females can be very scandolous. if she was in a relationship with his friend she more than likely knows about you. could be that she is bitter and lied to you about not knowing about you just to get you mad. and just like she told you she didnt know you, she could have easily said she was sleeping with him. think bout it, you already got him so what does she have to lose? i say just be blunt woth him and tell him that he needs to stop texting her. and if he doesnt have the respect for you to stop then its time to go. guys just love attention from women even if they dont sleep with them. maybe he just was texting her because he knows that she likes him. good luck. get your man girl but dont act press and jealous and crazy. that'll only push him away.
    NATTY567

    Answer by NATTY567 at 12:13 PM on Nov. 20, 2008

  • ITA WITH NATTY567 AND MS.BUSYBODY YOU GUYS SEEM TO REALLY KNOW YOUR STUFF.
    Anonymous

    Answer by Anonymous at 12:16 PM on Nov. 20, 2008

  • i had something similar happen to me but instead of texting in was his instant messenger. after i thought something was fishy ie he stooped coiming home for diner on his break. i logged on and jsut waited. when she messeged him i pretended i was him. she was like when do i get o c you again. and next time you should talk more. finally i confessed to her i was his wife. she was soo apalogetic. and we ended up tlaking over the phone. he told he he wasnt married and was living with his buddy in a totally diff apartment complex. and he had been skipping school to go see her. i do believe she was telling the truth. she was jsut as mad as i was. cuz not only i got played she did as well. i confronted him and he denied every single word of it. of coarse.
    cont.
    sweetestkitten

    Answer by sweetestkitten at 1:15 PM on Nov. 20, 2008

  • jsut go with your gut. and now that she know she should stop. and if she doesnt then you know both are to blame. but your so should not be straying in the first place. keep your eyes and ears open. and i wish you the best i know exactly what you are going thru. feel free to message me if you need to talk.
    sweetestkitten

    Answer by sweetestkitten at 1:15 PM on Nov. 20, 2008

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