I only have a little boy so far, but I was reading a book about how men and women are differently partly because as children boys are supposed to be tough while girls are protected and comforted more. I don't think it was true in my family of origin, but I dunno....
With my son, I pretty much let him test his environment to the point that it is safe. If that means crawling on the furniture and he might fall but it's not very far, I let him. (DH kind of freaks out). I was in the park when a friend who has a little girl the same age as my son (they were about 16 months). And the little girl was toddling around on the asphalt and the mom was hovering over her going, "slow down! slow down!" My son tripped and skinned his poor little lip.
I had to ask myself, if he was a girl, would I be more likely to hover over him like that? Would I cringe more if my little girl got hurt than my little boy? I've always seen minor bumps and bruises as a sort of rite of passage (don't get me wrong, if I'd been able, i would have stopped my sons fall!), but I started wondering if I would feel differently about a girl. I don't want to have a double standard!
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