I'm not looking to be judged. I just need some help and advice from someone. I've been with my boyfriend (the father of my child) for 8 years. I love him so much and he loves me. We've lived together for 7 years and share everything ( a house, car insurance, loans, bank accounts...). We have always thought of ourselves being together forever so not need to rush and get married. Well we were in another fight again today (we fight alot about small things) and he always fights dirty (says hurtful things and knows exactly what to say to crush me). I don't say mean things to hime. Whenever he does something that upsets me and I try to talk to him about it he never tried to explain anything he just gets defensive and says mean things to me until I drop it. Well long story short he was mean again today and he ended up leaving. Then he decided to come clean and tell me that he has been smoking behind my back for 3 years now (not ciagrettes). He knows that I hate that and I told him I would leave him if he ever did that again (long story... but that's my one thing I can't tolerate). Well I told him that before we had our daughter. She is 16 months old now and I found out that when he's with her when I'm at school or work he's smoking when she's home with him! She's always sleeping when he does but still. I am so hurt that he's been lying all this time and so pissed that he's doing it when she's home. What do I do? Do I make him move out? I can't afford to live on my own while I'm in school. Plus everything is in both our names. Do I try to make it work? I don't think I could ever trust him again not to mention he stays with her while I'm in school/work. Any advice would be appreciated.
Sorry it's so long... Just trying to give a history. Thank you for your help.
Asked by Anonymous at 5:27 PM on Feb. 27, 2011 in Relationships
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