My hubby thinks I cuddle our 3 yr old son too much. If he falls and stuff, I soothe him and hug him and he'll latch on to me and cry even more and I'll soothe him as long as I have to. My hubby thinks I shouldn't do that so much as he seems to become more needy the more I do it. It annoys the hell out of me and sometimes I feel like telling him to put his thoughts where the sun don't shine, because that's what mothers do, they soothe!!! What do you think?Answer Question
Answer by elizabr at 6:53 PM on Feb. 27, 2011
I was doing the same thing with my DS who is only 2 and my husband and dad told me that i needed to stop doing that cause he is a boy and he needs to man up. They think he should be tough. So now i only soothe him when he gets hurt really bad. Sometime he will say ouch for no reason and i tell him to shake it off and he does a lil shake and hes says hes better lol. I also noticed that sometimes if he falls and i pretend not to see him he wont say anything but if im looking at him he will start to wine.But yes you're right we as mothers are more nurturing then fathers ever will be.
Answer by Christieluv0614 at 6:57 PM on Feb. 27, 2011
You spoil a child by buying them whatever they want and not teaching them responsibility. You do not spoil a child with unconditional love or by meeting their needs. Raising Our Children, Raising Ourselves is a wonderful parenting book http://www.naomialdort.com/
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Answer by khedy at 11:35 PM on Feb. 27, 2011
I think there needs to be a balance. I don't want a kid who can't rely on me to take care of them, but I dont' want a kid that will cry over everything either. When my kids get hurt, I determine what happened and how badly they may be hurt. For example, my daughter tripped and ran into the wall. I knew she wasn't seriously hurt or anything so I turned into a joke. I asked her if she had broke my wall which she thought was funny. So instead of crying and having me rush to her aid, she learned that accidents happen, but little bumps aren't worth worrying over. Now if she is really hurt, I will hold her and snuggle her and just be what she needs to me to be.
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