Ladies...what's up here??
Why all the hostility in the adoption section?
Asked by Anonymous at 7:40 PM on Feb. 27, 2011 in Adoption
Answer by scout_mom at 7:41 PM on Feb. 27, 2011
Answer by dancer at 7:43 PM on Feb. 27, 2011
Answer by WARNING at 7:45 PM on Feb. 27, 2011
Answer by layh41407 at 7:46 PM on Feb. 27, 2011
Answer by mrsmom110 at 7:50 PM on Feb. 27, 2011
Answer by dragonqueen at 9:45 PM on Feb. 27, 2011
Answer by erinwhitt at 9:48 PM on Feb. 27, 2011
Because adoption is filled with passion, pain, loss, grief, joy, exhilaration...you name it - adoption runs the spectrum of emotions. Because there are strong opinions of domestic adoption, international adoption and foster care. The never ending debate about which avenue should perspective couples take and which form of adoption is ethical. Or the question of is any form of adoption ever ethical. This section is filled with birth parents, adoptees, and adoptive parents. Each have a different point of view and experience they want to share. When a woman attacks adoption it feels personal to the woman on the other end who is an adoptive parent. She may be parenting a child who she received with bruises and burn marks, a soul that was scarred and a child who was sexually assaulted in every way possible. For that mom, she will rip the eyes out (gladly) of any other person who defends what was
Answer by frogdawg at 9:54 PM on Feb. 27, 2011
defends the abusers who did that to that child. OR the parents who take in a medically fragile child who was born with or crack in her system....not to pleased to hear someone say this child should be with a birth family that wasn't supportive during pregnancy. Nor a parent who held the hand of a middle aged woman giving birth to her sixth child and knowing she will once again be homeless after she leaves the hospital - so she places her baby with an adoptive family. There are so MANY stories. But each one is sacred to each woman. There are many stories equally of pain, grief, loss of the birth mothers who were promised openness and then the realization that this was not fulfilled is horrible. And unimaginable. While my heart goes out to all familes - this is not an easy place to visit for some people. Especially if you are searching for answers.
Answer by frogdawg at 9:59 PM on Feb. 27, 2011
Answer by 2ndtimewish at 11:03 PM on Feb. 27, 2011