I have a 2 year old DS and 35 weeks pregnant with my second but have always wanted to adopt after I was finished having children.
Answer by mslksdh at 9:40 PM on Feb. 27, 2011
Answer by L0vingMy3Girls at 9:44 PM on Feb. 27, 2011
Answer by Anna92464 at 10:03 PM on Feb. 27, 2011
Well if you are finished with children you are complete as a family. If you are not finished expanding your family then of course adoption is always a consideration. But adoption is not for those who say "when I am done having my own children...." Adoption can be something wonderful and it is also a wild journey. If you reach a point in your life where you want more children but do not think it is necessary to carry one in your body in orderto expand your family - go for it. But for a child to hear those words "I was done having all MY children so then I adopted..." that is painful and hurtful. If you are ready for the roller coaster journey that adoption is and the waiting and wishing then the time is right. I cannot emphasize enough how much of a journey it is. And not always a good one. On the day we were to bring home a little girl from the hospital her mother changed her mind and did not
Answer by frogdawg at 10:08 PM on Feb. 27, 2011
Answer by ibelayni at 10:08 PM on Feb. 27, 2011
terminate her rights. We lost thousands of dollars with that one that did not go through. Each time it is a gamble. And foster care is not easy either. It will cost us more to fost/adopt than it did our private adoption. I am so glad there are families like yours who will consider adoption. Just make sure it is never an after thought - that you had all YOUR kids so now you can raise someone else's. I am sure you didn't mean it that way. But if you are truly interested in adoption the first step is learning the lingo.
Answer by frogdawg at 10:10 PM on Feb. 27, 2011