I have been with my boyfriend for 8 years, and I'm at the point where I can deal with some of his "issues" He hasn't bathed in days and is really sweaty...he hasn't cut his hair in a few months, his beard is scraggly and gross. I try to tell him that he needs to take care of basic grooming, but he says I should accept him for who he is. Huh? If I walked around stinky, with nasty facial hair he'd be totally embarrassed.
I think he's gotten to a place where he is complacent in the relationship, and so do I. We don't passionately kiss anymore, we rarely have sex, when he comes over to visit, we wind up watching tv all evening. We can't go out for "dates" because we don't have a regular babysitter.
I've mentioned the possibility of marriage-I mean, why not? We have a child together, we've been together for a long time. But he says he's "not ready for that kind of commitment! WTF? If he's not ready to commit, then why are we still together?
I don't know what to do. He's a great dad, but a lousy lover.
What do I do?
Asked by Anonymous at 7:11 AM on Feb. 28, 2011 in Relationships
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