It really depends on what state u live in but If he is the father then it really wouldnt be up to you, the court would have to decide if he was a fit or unfit father but if u go to court for child support they dont do the visitation at least they dont in Tn where i live. If u were never married to the childs father then u have full custody of the child until the father goes to court to get visitation/custody. I am going through this right now. My DD's bio dad doesnt see her, he is on drugs, been in jail 3 times last year and doesnt have a job/car or place to live. He tells me all the time he wants to see her and I say NO and even tho he signed the birth certificate my lawyer says that a child born out of wedlock is in full custody of the mother until the father does a DNA test, files for a parenting plan in court and files for visitation. Good luck.
I would call a lawyer and see if you can get a free consultation.
at 8:40 AM on Feb. 28, 2011