I have decided I am done with my relationship. I am with my daughters dad, we are not married but have been living together for a few years. During that time, I have mostly been a stay at home mom. Now my plan is to get into the local college and get a degree for psychology. Here are my problems:
* I dont know where to start to apply for grants or financial aide, and think I will need help filling out FASFA stuff. Where can I get help?
* I have no car, no money, no public or friends/family to help with transportation or babysitting. So I will have to stay here until I can get through school and get a job and a car, and then a place.
* I would like to move out before then...we are talking staying in a situation I dont need to be in (he is NOT abusive in case thats what you are thinking...not physically, and I'm tough enough to ignore his mental abuse, thats not the problem) for YEARS, which is not whats best for my daughter! I do not want her to see/hear/deal with this for another couple of years. It would be better if we each got her at separate times of the day/week. So, anyway, I'm wondering if there is a way to get help financially to get me out of here sooner. I'm not asking for a hand out, I just need temporary help, I'm not the type to be down long, I'll fight to get ahead. What I would need is, schooling, possibly childcare, and help with an apartment. I dont know where to start to find this help. Do I go to the school and ask for a councillor to walk me through it all? Is that their job? Or do I go up to social services and ask them to help with a place, move out, and then go to the school? I plan to work at least part time to help myself so that I dont need much help, but I know I cant do this without any help at all.
* Would you stay or would you try to get out if you honestly felt like being there was only making things worse for everyone involved? If you knew that no matter what you did it wouldn't help? If you had given it your all for the last few years and fought tooth and nail to make it better but very little had changed? If you were flat out told that he had no intention of ever marrying you or treating you any better than he does because he doesnt want to? What would you do? Would you stay and put up with it? Would you sacrifice your life so that your kid could have both parents? What if having both parents together was not as good as having both parents separately?
Does anyone know what I should do?
Asked by Anonymous at 12:38 PM on Feb. 28, 2011 in Relationships
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