I got him back with some persistence and intervention from his friends, but now what? I tell him how much I love him quite often but his little girlfriend tells him differently possibly because she gets more material things and does not have other siblings that the parents have to balance the time with. He feels like my husband pushes him around, and is always putting him down, keeps him uninvolved, when in fact it is my son pushing us away and refuses to have anything to do with us. He has huge emotional blow ups about the smallest things, screams at me, pushes me when I try and help him. Not sure what to do. I talked with my husband about his lecturing and asked him to back off some by pointing out what I see and treat him openly like the others, but he takes it so personally and gets so offended. I suggested counseling and my husband wasn't really for it. My son will be 18 in June but I just do not think he is stable enough to be out there yet. what do i do?
Asked by Anonymous at 11:38 PM on Feb. 28, 2011 in Teens (13-17)
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Answer by dancer at 11:50 PM on Feb. 28, 2011
I know he's almost 18. You want to help him and don't know how. I do believe that he is depressed. The real question here is why. It could be partly your husband, but I really don't think that is all. Did he change when he was around his current girlfriend or was it before then? It's possible that she is brainwashing him, but there is no way of knowing for sure. Talk to him and see if he is willing to go into counseling. I wouldn't make him, but offer him a chance to say on his on, and don't push the issue.He's at that age that he will start having to find some things out for himself. I do hope that things get better.
Answer by amessageofhope at 12:15 AM on Mar. 1, 2011
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Answer by ExtremlyUnique at 12:10 AM on Mar. 1, 2011
I am so sorry you are going threw this issue. Last June my oldest son runaway for a month he kept moving from friends to friend. I called the police and made a report but they couldn't find him.... I was seeing his friends status on facebook and updated pictures of his friends house so i knew he was alive. So then i posted on everyone of there pages that my son had runaway and I was going to press charges on who ever's house he was found at and the parents that was harboring my child as well. He then had no where to go and was back home two days later. uhmmmm for me that should of been a quicker lesson to know. I know now...lol.... I am sorry your son is being mentally abused by his GF.. That is not a good thing. I hope you the best of luck and try to hook him up with other girls to get him away from the bad one.
Answer by kalynskorner at 1:13 AM on Mar. 1, 2011