What does it take for you to put them in time out?
For example : DD took her pudding cup off the table and into the living room to eat it. I told her she needed to put it on the table in the kitchen if she wants to eat it. If not she was going to go in time out. She then proceeded to take a spoonful and tell me "no". At that point do I just put her in time out and take her pudding cup away?
I know this probably sounds stupid, but emotionally I'm shot and it's affecting my ability to parent my children. I need some help getting back on track and not feel like I'm being teamed up on by my kids.
Asked by Anonymous at 10:26 AM on Mar. 1, 2011 in Preschoolers (3-4)
Answer by L0vingMy3Girls at 10:29 AM on Mar. 1, 2011
Yes, she should have a consequence for outright defiance. If you tell her to do something, and she tells you no or refuses to do it she needs a consequence. The consequence could be losing the pudding cup, time-out, both, or something else. With my kids I would throw the pudding cup away and send them to their room.
Answer by TweenAndTwinMom at 10:33 AM on Mar. 1, 2011
Answer by parajumper3 at 10:33 AM on Mar. 1, 2011
Answer by TweenAndTwinMom at 10:35 AM on Mar. 1, 2011
Answer by admckenzie at 10:38 AM on Mar. 1, 2011
With my kids I'd probably put them right back in their room for a repeat offense, but if it's an ongoing problem and that consequence doesn't seem to be having much effect I'd try something different. If there is something that your daughter looks forward to that can be taken away, that might be more effective. For instance if she looks forward to going to the park or some other special activity, I might say, "Oh, that is so sad. I can only take girls who listen to Mommy to the park. Maybe tomorrow you'll feel like listening."
As for little ones not being able to discuss things, I don't think that matters. It will be obvious to them that when they do certain undesirable things they end up in time out or have some unwanted consequence. They are very smart and understand a lot before they can communicate it. Assuming they won't "get it" is insulting to them.
Answer by TweenAndTwinMom at 1:06 PM on Mar. 1, 2011
Answer by Mrs.Ro at 2:46 PM on Mar. 1, 2011
Answer by myboysRmyhero at 3:01 PM on Mar. 1, 2011