being a SAHM and having your husband come home from work saying he can't imagine what you do all day?! My hubby works night shift, comes home at 5 AM, showers, is in bed at 6AM and sleeps until noon. Then, when I ask him for a break he says "Oh yeah. You only got to sleep all night." No. No I did not. I was up all morning taking care of a 20 month old with a cold, he gets up at noon, does the dishes, then watches TV until he has to get ready for work. I cook dinner, we eat, he leaves for work, and then I'm taking care of the baby again. Then, once he goes to bed at 9, I clean the house and sometimes it takes until 1AM and then I also have to study for the postal battery exam. So I go to bed around an hour before he gets home. He truly doesn't understand. Yeah, you have to fix a conveyor and replace batteries in a forklift, and I won't pretend it's not hard work, but what I do at home every day is difficult too.
That is why, tomorrow, aside from what our son needs, I will not do any of it. Let's see how "easy" he thinks it is after that.
Answer by m-avi at 2:27 PM on Mar. 1, 2011
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Answer by MelissaAnn224 at 1:26 PM on Mar. 1, 2011
Answer by meooma at 1:28 PM on Mar. 1, 2011
Sounds like your husband does not respect or appreciate your contributions. I worked PT, on the night shift when my kids were little, leaving my husband in charge at night and on weekends. He totally "got it." I would never have been a SAHM for this exact reason. I think for many relationships, both parents need to walk in the other's shoes, in order to fully appreciate and balance the load.
Answer by Sisteract at 1:30 PM on Mar. 1, 2011
Answer by Anonymous at 1:31 PM on Mar. 1, 2011
but what I do at home every day is difficult too.
A couple of things that are very different from home VS the workplace......at home, you can take a break or put off whatever you wish (kinda like you're planning to do today), and 2- you do not get paid for what you do because only your family profits. If your husband were to wage a "strike" or work stoppage, he'd likely be reprimanded, or even fired-
Answer by Sisteract at 1:35 PM on Mar. 1, 2011
If I went to work each day, and my husband stayed at home, I would expect to arrive home to a clean home, laundered clothes, bills paid, children cared for and meals prepared. I would expect that my SAHP worked just as hard as I did. Now that I am all but retired, I thank my husband often for working hard to provide us a wonderful life (we are mid 50s). Being at home is a piece of cake (kids are in and out as they attend college and live away), as compared with working AND co-ordinating all those items you've listed. Working parents still must cook, clean, parent, run errands and make appts. I've done both-being at home IS far less stressful-
Answer by Sisteract at 1:58 PM on Mar. 1, 2011
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