I am needing help with understanding how to best approach this situation with grandparents. my DH and I are not very trusting of his parents, due to recent lies and the family feud situation. They agreed to follow our rules and requests, so we trusted them to have a weekend visit alone with DD which we normally do not allow bc of trust and boundary issues with them.
Well our DD was sharing stories about the visit with her grandparents and we asked if her Aunt was over ( whom has caused the family feud among us). DD said yes and She spent the night . Auntie slept in great grandmas bedroom and I slept with in grandpa and ma's room with them. Then DH proceeded to tell me that grandma said it was a secret and not to tell mom about their secret.
I told my DH and he called his family and according to him its not true. I just don't see why DD would lie about this story she has nothing to gain. So now he is upset with me for still being skeptical about the situation.
Has anyone else dealt with similiar situations and would a 4yr old lie about such a simple thing like who was over for the weekend?Answer Question
Answer by elizabr at 7:04 PM on Mar. 1, 2011
Trust your instinct but keep in mind that children also leave out alot and sometimes their perception of what happened isn't always accurate. I'd speak to the in-laws myself if I were really concerned.
Answer by skittles1108 at 7:23 PM on Mar. 1, 2011
Answer by Jademom07 at 7:24 PM on Mar. 1, 2011
Answer by elizabr at 7:26 PM on Mar. 1, 2011
I would be outraged. Not only did they break the agreement you guys had, they then told your child to lie to you. Why would your daughter say that? And hub can be mad all he wants to, how could she make that part up?
Answer by MrsHouston47302 at 7:27 PM on Mar. 1, 2011
Answer by Jademom07 at 7:30 PM on Mar. 1, 2011
Answer by 21lisa72 at 8:27 PM on Mar. 1, 2011