It's a complicated, long story, but for starters I come from a Latin family and there's eight of us (my parents, then three boys/three girls). I'm the second eldest, but eldest girl- which automatically put my role in the family as caretaker...my parents both always worked full time so I helped the most with the other children, which instantly created very strong intense bonds.
Now I'm 24, have moved out of my house and across the country since I was 18. I'm still very close to my family, speak to several of them weekly, if not daily even though I only go home once a year (they live in MA, I live in CA).
BUT, lately there has been a lot of drama, like an excessive amount...there's problems with my older brother and his fiance, my sister and her husband, and other nonmarital related issues with the younger ones. My problem is, my parents only involve me when they see fit- if they need my help they ask for it, but if they don't want to include me and I try to give them my opinion, they shut me down. It's VERY hard and I stil get quite worked up sometimes, because I'm close to my siblings and care about what's going on.
My SO thinks I need to distance myself from them, that I shouldn't talk to them so often and be involved in the "drama". The problem is, I don't really know how to do that. Sure there are times where we don't all talk so often, but to not talk about their lives- how is that possible?
ANY advice would be great, thanks!!
Answer by lillyblue111 at 10:15 AM on Mar. 4, 2011
Answer by amessageofhope at 12:29 AM on Mar. 2, 2011