My son is 18, almost 19 and never got his license because hes never had a job & didnt go to college which is our rule for financial help (getting a car, insurance etc). He absolutely refuses to work and has only worked 3 days in his life. He ended up moving out for not being able to abide our house rules. He wasnt in school or working. He would stay up all night, have people over I did not approve of, and just wanted to party. I have other kids at home and gave him a choice to stop and get a job or go live somewhere else. He chose to live with his sister (22 with 2 kids of her own).
Ok so my son got a ticket for driving without a license in Nov. I had told him time and again not to drive without a license or he would get caught. He did it anyway. At tax time every year I buy the kids something. This year he asked me to spend that money to help him get his license & first months insurance. I told him he should get a job AGAIN and not rely on us. In the end I said fine, either I pay your ticket or help with your license.
Now it is March. He has court on the 8th. I have been hounding him to please come with me to buy his insurance. I cant buy it by law without him there. He always has an excuse. Or he leaves his sisters and goes off to do who knows what with his "friends". One of his "friends" showed up at my house a couple nights back looking for him and ended up at my dds house with him. This "friend" is a bad friend, smokes pot, is on probation etc etc. Well he left & when I went to pick him up to get his license he was not home. He called last night and asked what I was doing. I got on him and said where were you? He got smart with me, and I told him if he was not home by tomorrow morning when I came by I would not pay for his license & would just pay off his ticket. I know he is going to get pissed and say Im not fair, that I promised him his license. But at this point what am I supposed to do>? If I pay his ticket at least he wont have a fine or court.
Am I right or wrong?
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