I dont speak w/ my bio mom b/c she was abusive, been 8yrs since we last spoke. Her husband (my stepdad) has a sis in alaska. Xmas 2009 she sent me a card saying she wanted to reconnect etc In this 1st attempt at a reconnect in 7yrs she immediately said she would love to meet up next time she is in maine.
My mom is very munipulative & I have opted to have absolutely nothing to do w/ her. I make sure to be careful what to say to ppl b/c I dont need her drama near my child. This women is close to my stepdad & I want to be cautious about a connection w/ her. All the same I wrote back a very polite, undetailed letter back stateing I wanted nothing to do w/ my mom but that shouldnt affect us being friends.
I didnt hear back which is fine. This past xmas 2010 she writes another letter. Again saying when she comes to maine lets meet up & closes it out w/ hope you find time to write back. This indicates that either she didnt get my letter from the previous year or forgot about it. Again I wrote back another letter. Here it is march & no word from her.
I could honestly care less about having a relationship w/ her of not. Just wanted to see what you ladies thought of the situation. Sometimes its nice to have an outside perspective you know. I will not work to have a relationship w/ anyone if they dont put in the work back, I have learned this the hard way. I am at peace w/ my past & will never allow anyone to shatter that peace. I enter into a friendship w/ someone close to the family like this with caution but only b/c my mom is a threat to myself & my child (she has threatened to kill me in the past, told others she would cause me harm, & beaten me before).
Is just a weird couple of cards & does make me think that maybe my mom has something to do w/ this. Thoughts?
Answer by Austinsmom35 at 8:22 PM on Mar. 2, 2011
Answer by thatgirl70 at 4:29 PM on Mar. 2, 2011
Answer by admckenzie at 5:33 PM on Mar. 2, 2011