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I need to tell one of my friends...

That buying this "new car"(new to them) is a really bad idea.
She is the type of person that if it's shiny and new, she needs it.

She sold her old car. So, yes, she doesn't have a vehicle atm. But, she's a SAHM. Now, moving on...

the car is a 2002 Audi Quattro A4. 120k miles, and they're asking 7k for the car. Keep in mind, it's 7k that they (her DH and herself) do not have. Her hubby needs to step up and say no...but again, they're like 2 peas in a pod. Bright, shiny, and new.

She's a great friend, but, I really think she's going to regret it.

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Asked by Chloesmom1126 at 9:25 PM on Mar. 2, 2011 in Relationships

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Answers (13)
  • really not your call. you would probably piss her off if you said anything

    Answer by autbot at 9:26 PM on Mar. 2, 2011

  • Aint nothing yo can do. If she asks say you think its not a good decision for them, dont mention the shiny part, and then let it go. Some ppl just have to learn the hard way. A good friend is the one who is there to pick up the pieces.

    Answer by NightOwlMama at 9:28 PM on Mar. 2, 2011

  • unless she's asking you for the money, it's really not your call.

    Answer by MrsMWF at 9:28 PM on Mar. 2, 2011

  • This is a huge case of MYOB!!!! They are adults and can do what they want. STAY OUT OF IT.

    Answer by tyfry7496 at 9:33 PM on Mar. 2, 2011

  • omg my bro and his wife are the same way. they have enough money to buy all these toys, dirtbikes, motorcycles, new avalanche (with a 900/mo payment) and snow use 3 months out of the year...but yet call my dad asking for help paying their bills. Last month they were down to $4 in their checking acct. and have no savings. They bought a tanning bed, because that makes more sense than occasionally going tanning right? Nevermind the electric bill going up due to the usage.... it's pathetic. They think that you can measure your success by the number of things you have. Nevermind that you don't pay much attention to your kids, but Hey! That new motorcycle is great! They need to have a reality check. dont bite off more than you can chew, in their situation, get a less expensive car that has less miles....but you know what? U cant stop people from making their own poor choices....

    Answer by katieandchris01 at 9:38 PM on Mar. 2, 2011

  • has she asked you what you think ? if she has, then I would tell her that you wouldn't buy it, but other than that it may be best to stay out of it.

    Answer by ItsMe89 at 9:40 PM on Mar. 2, 2011

  • If she asks your opinion you should tell her that you don't think it is a good idea, but leave it at that. What does being a SAHM have to do with not needing transportation for her and her child/ren?

    Answer by MelzyD at 9:40 PM on Mar. 2, 2011

  • Your heart is in the right place but they need to learn from their mistakes.

    Answer by Simplicity3 at 9:47 PM on Mar. 2, 2011

  • When she talks about it you can tell her that fixing those cars if they break down will be really expensive.. I had one and OMG the repair bills were unreal.. Ask her to have the car checked by a mechanic to make sure it is worth the money and then let her decide.. That's really all you can do..

    Answer by midnightmoma at 9:48 PM on Mar. 2, 2011

  • You could suggest looking for more cars then decide. Many she can check Consumer Reports and find a dependable car that has a high rating based on tests not on shiny exterior.

    Answer by admckenzie at 9:49 PM on Mar. 2, 2011

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