My nephew has been running wild, in trouble with police, pulled knife at school yesterday and threatened to hurt himself or others, runs away and stays away for several days, smokes, drinks and is generally out of control. He is 13 yrs old!
Where he lives unfortunately, the support and law systems are all in favor of him, police cannot force him to return home, they are legally not allowed to tell his parents where he is staying. He has said his aim is to get into juvenile detention cos "it's cool". My Sister in law and her hubby are going crazy and last night she asked if he can come live with us - fresh start, new town etc. I don't want him to. I have 4 kids aged 16, 14, 12 and 6 and don't think I can handle the responsibility. I also don't think he will behave better for me and I don't want that influence on my own kids. The other alternative is to sign him over to DOC's temporarily which are strangers but they deal with kids like this everyday and are much more street savvy than me or his parents. I have said no.
Of course that makes me the bad guy with all my in laws.. wonder what you all think?
Answer by MamaRoberts at 11:18 PM on Mar. 2, 2011
Answer by pinkdragon36 at 11:10 PM on Mar. 2, 2011
Answer by mikesmom65270 at 11:19 PM on Mar. 2, 2011
Answer by blessedwboysx3 at 10:42 AM on Mar. 3, 2011
I would say no and I think that's very lazy of them personally. Look at everything you already have on your plate! You are trying to raise your own children and they are trying to get you to take care of theirs also?! That seems very selfish to me. And I agree, why would you want that kind of influence around your children. He pulled a knife at school and threatened to hurt himself and others, what if he did that to one of your children?! I would be the "bad guy" also and say no.
Answer by MrsHouston47302 at 11:19 PM on Mar. 2, 2011
Answer by Anonymous at 1:12 PM on Mar. 3, 2011
Next question overall
So, since I am the mother in law, I guess I have to be the bad guy.