Without knowing exactly what the issues are... as a basic guide... try talking to him about his actions and why he's doing them- (how/what is he feeling when it happens). It is frustrating as a kid to not feel in control of things so they usually act out in other ways. Without getting mad, the next time he acts up, ask him what's going on... how he is feeling. If it is angry... ask him why. Talk with him and ask questions so he feels understood. If he is stubborn, it might take a while for him to open up. But he will if he feels he won't get in trouble for being honest about his feelings. "Talking" is key- no raised voices. If things start getting heated, just say... "I think we neeed to take a break and think about what we've told each other. Can we talk again at ... o'clock" and follow through. Hope this helps. Good luck!
at 1:39 PM on Mar. 3, 2011