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If a woman got pregnant...... adult content

by a guy she was dating, and already made up her mind to have an abortion, should she even tell the guy she is pregnant and plans on having an abortion, or should she just do it, and never tell him?

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Asked by Anonymous at 4:07 PM on Mar. 3, 2011 in Relationships

Answers (22)
  • It would depend on the depth and nature of their relationship

    Answer by adnilm at 4:08 PM on Mar. 3, 2011

  • I don't get it.. how is this a religious question?


    Answer by momto2boys973 at 4:08 PM on Mar. 3, 2011

  • hmmmm idk about that one.. i dont beleive in abortion so i dont think i would have to come across this situation but i agreewith adnilm it would depend on the relationship...

    Answer by kylansmommy09 at 4:09 PM on Mar. 3, 2011

  • in my opinion the father should have some right to keep the baby even if the mother doesn't want to. I think it is unethical (aside from morality) to kill someone's child without ever letting them know they had a child...

    I think if the relationship is so poor that a pregnancy has to be a secret then they should have broken up and moved on already anyway.

    Answer by angelmommy11 at 4:09 PM on Mar. 3, 2011

  • Honestly I do think that he has a right to know about the pregnancy as it is his child too.

    Answer by MizLee at 4:09 PM on Mar. 3, 2011

  • I think the father should be told!

    Answer by Anonymous at 4:10 PM on Mar. 3, 2011

  • A) Wrong section.
    B) Common Courtesy would suggest she should notify the father but ultimately the decision is hers so it wouldn't really matter if he knew or not if she was going to do it anyways. Especially if he wanted children. That would be like showing him a brand new car before signaling a wrecking ball to destroy it.

    Answer by KristiS11384 at 4:10 PM on Mar. 3, 2011

  • that is completely up to the woman and depending on the situation and the nature of their relationship that would make the choice.
    personally if it was a new relationship and if i didnt feel i was ready i might not. but on the other hand if it was a long relationship and i thought that the relationship was in good standing and i was a bit older i would. it could change how things are dealt with.

    Answer by laura970 at 4:11 PM on Mar. 3, 2011

  • she can tell him, but it's still her decision.

    Answer by tnm786 at 4:12 PM on Mar. 3, 2011

  • This is a very hard question, and decision to make. It really depends on the person making the choice. Honestly you really have to make the decision to do what is best for you and your choices for a family now and in the future. If you feel comfortable let him know, if not than don't it is your body so it is ultimately your choice on what to do.

    Answer by CEGrissim at 4:13 PM on Mar. 3, 2011

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