Original post/History: My best friend has a slew of medical problems. She's got an illiostomy bag, has a very aggressive form of chrone's disease, can break ribs if she coughs too hard. It's a huge laundry list.Well for the past month or two she's been dealing/struggling with gall stones. Has painfully passed one, maybe to. Tomorrow she was going to have a high-risk surgery to remove her gall bladder. She found out last week that her surgery had been canceled because she had not called to confirm it. Well, to deal with everything she's crawled into a bottle.
I GET that her life is rough with all her medical problems, and I've been very supportive up until now. *I* have had some rotten experiences with drunks/alcoholics as a child and as an adult and DO NOT see how crawling into a bottle is going to solve/fix anything. And she KNOWS this about me.
Am I out of line for not wanting to support her or talk with her while she's drunk?
She has left a couple hurt/snide comments about how the only person who supports/cares is her husband and she's tired of being judged by everyone.
**Note, she's like the sister I never had otherwise. We tell people that she's the sister of my heart.
Update (3/3/11): Got a facebook message from her today basically telling me to go to hell. ItsMe89, you were right, it was the beginning of the end. I'm feeling rather low at the moment because I thought this was going to be a forever type friendship that would survive through anything. I was wrong. As soon as I told her/did something she didn't like she turned on me. Now it's also getting ugly. I'm trying to be the better person and not engage in the bitter, snide, bitchy comments but it's hard.
Now she's leaving all kinds of snide, inflammatory comments on her wall, and mine, on Facebook. My first reaction is to snap right back but I REALLY want to be the better person and take the high road. What is the best way to do this? (Note: I'm not one to pull my punches, verbal or physical)
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