Okay I have to ask because personally I think I'm going to do the right thing but then again I feel bad. My father is an alcoholic and I told him that if he didn't straighten up that I'm not going to bring my daughter around when she is born and I've told him this a lot of times and he always acts like he doesn't care. I feel bad because I was planning on living with my parents after she was born so I could get some help from my mom since my bf works all the time. So if I don't let him see her then my mom and sister wont see her either because he lives in the house also... The only reason I am asking on here is because I don't really have anyone else to talk too me and my mom talk about it all the time and my father and I always get into fights about it and then my mom gets into it with him about it also and yet nothing changes. Idk what to do anymore.. So any advice? I could really use it at a time like this...Answer Question
Answer by sweetpea1217 at 11:29 PM on Mar. 4, 2011
Answer by Bird16_J at 11:31 PM on Mar. 4, 2011
Answer by briansmom123 at 11:50 PM on Mar. 4, 2011
My dad is an alcoholic (both of my parents were, among other things) and I think the first thing to realize is that his addiction has absolutely NOTHING to do with you. Period. While you feel like he is choosing his alcohol over you, that is simply not the case, in my opinion. You can't force anyone to stop their addictions. In saying that it has nothing to do with you, I am not saying that it shouldn't hurt you or that you aren't affected. What I am saying is that his decisions are his own, as are yours. Either learn to deal with his drinking, or don't. You figure out what YOU are willing to deal with and what you aren't. Offering ultimatiums isn't going to magically stop him from drinking. Say to yourself "okay, he isn't going to stop so what are MY choices".
Answer by MrsHouston47302 at 11:52 PM on Mar. 4, 2011
I don't know if this helped or not but this is how I deal with it myself. Hopefully it helped some. :) I still take my children to go see my dad, even when he's drunk. He isn't a violent drunk anymore and I see no harm. I can only take him in small doses though.
Answer by MrsHouston47302 at 11:54 PM on Mar. 4, 2011
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