My daughter (2.5) feels a level of discouragement that I think is abnormal. For instance, I was writing something and she wanted to write too, so I gave her the pen and paper. After a moment, she fell to the ground and whimpered, "I can't draw the letters." I explained in what was probably a desperately sad voice that nobody can at her age and that it's something that takes a long time to learn, but she will be able to write letters. Today, at the skating rink, skating for the first time ever, she hunched over and said "I'm not good at this!" I have read Nurture Shock where the authors talk about bright kids giving up on things that they don't take to quickly because they have always been praised for bring smart. She's only two and she gets told that all the time, especially for her language, but other abilities as well. I can't control my own praise, it just pops out of me because I am genuinely surprised and awed by her logic or connections or her identifying words in a book. But, I especially can't control everyone else's comments. Everyone remarks on her speech and knowledge everywhere we go. Practically everyday. But this new discouragement has me worried. I don't feel like it is normal for a two-year-old to be so discouraged that they can't do something right away. I feel like I have crushed her spirit and ruined what will be her capacity for ambition and confidence. Ugh. Perspective? Experience? Help!
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