In my family we have always lived by the rule that, when children are old enough to ask then they are old enough to be told on their level. When I was shopping with my niece and I bought tampons, she asked what they were for so I told her that it was the keep me from making a mess. When I was pregnant, she asked me how that baby got in there, I told her that the daddy planted a seed in the mommy's belly and it came together with the mommy's egg and it made a baby inside the belly. When she asked why the food I ate didn't hurt the baby when it fell on it I explained that the baby wasn't in my stomach, that she lived in my uterus, which kept her warm and safe. When she asked where the baby came out I explained to her that there was a special opening that was made for the baby to come out. My sister and I were always told what we need to know when we asked. She said she'd rather us hear it from her then to learn it from kids at school. The only thing I remember lying about was when my niece was six and she found a condom on my dresser and, when she asked what it was, I told her it was a grown up balloon.
I recently had an argument with my friend because her five year old asked me how the baby got inside the mommy's belly (a tv show started the conversation) I told him that God took a seed from the daddy and an egg from the mommy and joined them together in the mommy's tummy and then the baby starts to grow. My friend had a fit because he had asked her the same question and she told him that she didn't know because she didn't want to tell him, which was why he asked me. I don't believe in lying to children because, if you're going to teach them to be honest then you have to be honest with them.
She thinks I'm crazy. What do you think?
Answer by shivasgirl at 5:32 AM on Mar. 5, 2011
Answer by LindAngeLevi at 5:43 AM on Mar. 5, 2011
I agree with the honesty method and answer my daughters questions in a similar way. That being said, I can see your friends point. It wasn't your place to have any part of the birds and the bees talk with her son unless she invited you into it or asked for your help or advice.
Answer by Lornamay at 5:44 AM on Mar. 5, 2011
Answer by samurai_chica at 6:27 AM on Mar. 5, 2011
Answer by jenn4443 at 6:31 AM on Mar. 5, 2011
Answer by samurai_chica at 6:42 AM on Mar. 5, 2011
Answer by SWasson at 7:04 AM on Mar. 5, 2011
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