my husband earns an income of $1700/month and we are a family of 5. needless to say we're struggling hard and we dont even qualify for PA because according to them we "make too much" .. i guess the standards are really high in my area. or really low? either way, we scrape the bottom of our pockets each month to make ends meet. and before anyone wants to judge, we made our big family when he was still in the army. unfortunate events happened that was beyond our control and he was honorably discharged.
anyway, he gets paid every friday and yesterday, his entire paycheck was spent before the day was even over. we had to pay his truck payment, his auto insurance was automatically deducted & i spent $120 on groceries. i really dont think thats a lot for a family of 5 and i make it last a week. we still have 2 in diapers as well. hes been wanting me to spend $75-$100 per week and i tried but it wouldn't last us til next payday.
so unbeknownst to me, he went & paid his mom a visit & told her about all this & she lent us $300. we are supposed to write down everything we spend and give it back to her, and then she's going to come over & give us a budget. um, seriously? it infuriates me because now it's her business what we spend our money on. i told him there is literally NO room for change in our current budget, it ALL goes to bills. and he said "well let's just let her do it then so we can prove we only spend it on bills" why the fuck do i need to prove anything to her? i said thank you for the money, don't get me wrong. but everything was taken care of so we don't need anything til next payday. and now i have to document what we spend so his mom can make some kind of judgment about it? he implied that she thinks i spend it frivolously, which pisses me off. splurging for us is paying $10 a month for netflix. anywhere i take the kids for fun is free, like the park or beach, which we walk to so we don't use a lot of gas (they are very closeby). i will not budge on how much i spend on groceries. feeding my kids is my top priority! so if she thinks she's going to come in here & tell me how much to spend on groceries, i will flip shit. my younger kids both wear hand me downs and i look for clearance & sales when my oldest needs clothes. i buy generic brands at the store & use coupons, what the hell else can i do?
he wants me to "humor him" and let her do a budget for us. which i will, i guess i dont have any other choice right? i really don't want her hawk eyes all up in our finances, more than she already is. i feel like i have no control now. im the one who handles everything, and im doing just fine. it sucks that we're flat broke but if i go to work ill make less income than it would cost to send 3 kids to daycare.
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