I have met this guy (at church). I was quickly attracted to him...and I'm not just talking about physical attraction. I can't explain it though. He is one of the nicest guys I have ever met. He is 37 (never married), I am 36 and divorced (with two children). I found out through a mutual friend that he had a very rough childhood...grew up in foster homes, was adopted then "un-adopted". He has a big fear of commitment, but doesn't want to...he wants to have a relationship, but just can't get past the things that happened in his youth.
My question is how do I "help" him? I know I can't be his therapist or psychiatrist or make him commit...but I want to know things I can do to help him open up and things I can do to help his heart heal besides just being a friend. Like I said...he is one of the nicest guys I've ever met and my heart hurts to know the pain he feels. If you would like to advise more, just let me know and I can pm you...thank you sooo much!!
Asked by Anonymous at 11:07 AM on Mar. 5, 2011 in Relationships
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