We are broke. We are both unemployed, but ACTIVELY seeking work. We get checks every now and then from returns on student loans and grants for schooling. We're waiting on the Map Grant to come in and it would be about $2300. We have 4 kids. We are getting help from church, my in laws, my parents and the rest we're using our student loans to pay bills when we can etc.
My parents are pressuring us to go to my brothers wedding in a totally different state. It would take 3 days driving EACH WAY (gas, hotel, food along the way, back and forth) OR my parents were going to buy us all plane tickets (5 hour flight each way). They asked us to put in $1000(they are putting up for a hotel for the time we're there as well) cause they knew we were going to get this student loan money in, and my husband wanted to use it to help pay our way to my brothers wedding. My husband wants to go, my parents want us to go and fork out the money.
I FEEL this is totally irresponsible. Don't get me wrong, I want to be there, I'm sad if I won't be able to make it, but I can't justify spending that money that we need for bills, diapers, gas and living necessities. I know my brother will be sad, but it's like everyone is ignoring the situation that me and my husband are in? WE ARE POOR. Less than dirt poor because he got laid off. I just don't know what people to expect out of us.
I fee like I'm dissapointing people if I don't go.....but I believe you should never over extend yourself for others because you ultimately can't help anyone else unless your ok with your situation.
So, what would you do? Or what should I tell everyone else so they'll stop pressuring me to give into this trip? I don't understand why everyone else doesn't understand why I don't want to spend this money to go to a wedding. Does this make me cold for not spending the money for my own BROTHER'S wedding?
Asked by Anonymous at 11:14 AM on Mar. 5, 2011 in Relationships
Answer by admckenzie at 11:18 AM on Mar. 5, 2011
Answer by Lynette at 11:26 AM on Mar. 5, 2011
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Answer by Lobelia at 12:02 PM on Mar. 5, 2011
I understand totally what you are saying & I think you are very right. Here is an option: I think it is ridiculous for you, the kids & DH to go. How about Just you only. Let your parents pay for your flight only & stay in their room at the Hotel. Then pay them back for just your flight. That way you will get to see your Brother get married. But in the future, if you are going to receive any $ from wherever, I would keep it to myself. That way they won't expect anything from you & you do what you can. Better off for other family members to not know everything financially. GL
Answer by ILovemyPaulie at 1:32 PM on Mar. 5, 2011
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Answer by Betutah at 11:53 PM on Mar. 6, 2011