I have gone to mediation and exchanged my kids with the ex but it's been miserable. When I exchange the kids he either says mean things about my appearance or forces me to hug him, gropes my breast. All in public places! So you can imagine what he's like behind closed doors. I left him because he abused me sexually, physically, mentally for years. I contacted the DAs office to get victim witness #s for my kids so they could get therapy. They informed me that in 2009 when my ex was sentenced to prison for death threats, the judge imposed a restraining order and he was served with it while in the court room. It protects me from any form of communication and contact for 10 years- till 2019. I asked the deputies if it's void because I've seen him and spoke to him since and they said that a lot of people think that's what happens but the truth is that it's not at all. So now I have my order and I told his parents that I will not exchange the kids with him and they need to tell him because I won't contact him or go near him ever again.
I tried to get a TRO to protect my kids and the police told me a copy of my order should tell them just how serious this is. It was denied on Thursday (it felt like a through my heart). The judge set it for a hearing and wrote a note to me that I signed a visitation order at mediation in February.
To comply with the visitation order, my sister exchanged the kids for me this weekend. He told her, "If she keeps acting like a little bitch, I'm going to have to get full custody. My roommate has full custody of both his kids and he told me how to do it.". She told him, "If you want full custody you should do it because you want your kids full time not because she's not doing what you say." He ignored her of course.
I'm a depressed mess now. I am worried about my kids every weekend they're with him. He's beat me in front of them! He's sick! The judge not granting the TRO has me thinking the people at the Family Law Court are not going to be help me much. His confidence in getting the kids has me scared. What if he makes false CPS reports? What if the kids get taken away?? The truth is that if the kids get taken away from me, no authority will let them stay with him. He has an extensive criminal record. If they do get taken away from me because of lies, they'll go elsewhere. I had a DUI in 2008 but I was out with friends on a weekend I didn't have my kids. I'm passed that now and it's the only thing on my record. I have my OWN place with a room only for the kids, a clean home, a job, healthy clean friends, I don't drink or smoke or anything. But I'm still scared. I get so stressed and depressed I get symptoms that make me sick- like fibromayalgia. I don't understand how he can continue to attack me from so far....
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