A) I would have each boy say one nice thing the other did for him during the day every night at dinner time. It can be a simple thing like he got my book bag for me, or he found my other shoe...just anything. If they can't come up with anything, they lose privileges like screen time or whatever is important to them.
B) I would drop them off at a volunteer/ community service project together. We have a soup kitchen that serves meals every single Sunday night, I would be dropping off both boys there every Sunday. They will have to work together and cooperate and hopefully they will start to count their blessings. If you don't have a soup kitchen, do you have an animal shelter? There are many places they can donate time and help the community together until they learn how to get along better and get their values better in order.
C) I would make sure they each have their own "thing" , sport, hobby, activity, music, anything!
at 2:18 PM on Mar. 5, 2011