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I need suggestions on how to keep a relationship exciting??

I have a wonderful husband, just like all marriages we have had our ups and downs, but after being together for 9 years we still seem to want each other around..The problem is the rising cost of living and raising kids, has made me need to work two jobs and my husband works overnights, needless to say not alot of couple time. Does anyone have some ideas on how to spend an inexpensive night together when you have little time?

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Asked by Palatino3 at 2:24 PM on Mar. 5, 2011 in Relationships

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  • Living room camp outs after baby is aleep are nice, watching the stars, or get a baby sitter and go for a drive and maybe just be a little crazy and outgoing on the drive :) just think of your middle school and high school days make it silly fun :)

    Answer by Courtney408 at 2:28 PM on Mar. 5, 2011

  • If you can, send the kids away.
    Get all dolled up just to stay in, make a nice dinner or better yet order something cheap and yumy. Treat it like a date, sit down together, linger, eat, talk, have dessert, and then cuddle up on the couch with a nice movie. Of course end the night with some hott sex. Maybe visit the adult store (either w him or without him) and pick up a new toy or lotion to try out.
    It is all a matter of getting it in your head that tonight is different, tonight is special time together not to be taken for granted.

    If you feel like you need to mix it up even more, take it back to fun dating, go to the movies, go mini- golfing, bowling (look for coupons as can be expensive), do something to reconnect and have a nice night.


    Answer by sassy_brizzy at 2:31 PM on Mar. 5, 2011

  • Kind of sounds like my situation..husband works overnights and I work 3 twelve hours shifts so not much time so what we do is when he's off Mon and into Tues we go to the Library get movies (free) come home maybe get some wine coolers the kids in school and we just bond talk, laugh and after the kid is off to school the next day we don't even get out of bed we just bond there and have coffee snuggle and watch movies.
    Time permitting we go to Dinner when we can....

    Answer by dusty1962 at 3:24 PM on Mar. 5, 2011

  • For us during the years when we were both working, had a young child, and life seemed to always be a roller coaster.We learned that we had to make time for one another, even if it was just 15 minutes of just "Us" time somewhere in the day/night at home.We made the most out of the time we had. If we could only muster 10 minutes together, we took that time and made it about "US". No kiddo talk, no bills, no work, no money,no we need or we need to do and so on. That little bit of time was focused on us and us alone.Sometimes that meant dishes didn't get done until the morning, or some other thing may get put off for a few minutes or a day. However "WE" were more important

    Regardless if it is 5 minutes or 5 hours. Couples need to make time for one another and that time should be spent on "them" and them alone. That simple act of focusing on & only paying attention to one another can make a HUGE amount of difference in a marriage

    Answer by pixie_trix at 3:32 PM on Mar. 5, 2011

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