(we have a 2 year old, and are due for our 2nd late spring) Several of my husband's out of state family have invited themselves to stay with us right around our due date. Each separately telling me (not my husband) that they are planning on coming so they can be there when I go into labor.
I understand his parents wanting to be there ... it's the aunts and cousins that are saying they're going to come and 'help with the toddler' before hand that I don't know how to answer. I will need more 'help' after the baby is here. And (with our first son) my FIL and his wife (good friend of mine) came from across the country for a week - and watched me like a time bomb saying things like "we're going to be leaving on Monday - hope you deliver before then" ... I love them SO much, so - despite the pressure and anxiety it created, I don't mind them - in fact, I want them here. But, now we have some other family of my DH (that neither of us are that crazy about) saying they want to come stay with us too ... They live 3 - 6 hours away. I have a lot of family in the area that they could stay with - they know this. But, how do I tell them to wait til after baby is here, while telling my FIL and his wife (my sweet friend) they, however, are absolutely welcome to come? Is there a way to do this without creating even more problems?
The family who are inviting themselves are pushy, loud, outspoken, and have a way of getting on my last nerve - so them loudly sitting around saying "aren't you in labor yet" would REALLY not be helpful. How do I politely tell them 'no' without opening myself up to a seriously uncomfortable conversation? (i.e. 'so THEY can come and WE can't?')
Any offers of what to say would be much appreciated! Thank you!
Answer by Kristin_Allen at 8:10 PM on Mar. 5, 2011
Answer by Musicmom80 at 8:01 PM on Mar. 5, 2011
Answer by gemgem at 8:02 PM on Mar. 5, 2011
I don't see any way to do this other than to be sneaky or just outright. I would outright tell them that you rather they be there AFTER the baby is born. This is YOUR time, own it.
Answer by MrsHouston47302 at 8:00 PM on Mar. 5, 2011
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Answer by PhilsBabyMama at 9:14 PM on Mar. 5, 2011