The other day our 13 yr old son went over a friends house (his Mother was home). Apparently she allowed the boys to walk down to a nearby strip mall where his friend took out a pack of cigarettes that he had taken from his Mom (both of the boys parents smoke). The boy lit a cigarette and offered one to our son. Our son is not strong enough to resist peer pressure so he took one, and then another. Apparently the police showed up at this point (they were called about something unrelated) and saw the 2 underage boys smoking. They came over, talked to the boys for a while then crushed up the cigarettes and told the boys not to do it again. Our son was paranoid that the police would contact us so he came home and told us what happened. We didn't flip out on him at the time, but Lord knows we were very upset. The question is, what is the best way to deal with this so it doesn't backfire? FYI, no one in our household smokes. None of our close family members smoke. We have educated our kids about the dangers of smoking and they always seemed against smoking.
Asked by Anonymous at 10:19 AM on Mar. 6, 2011 in General Parenting
Kids with poor self-esteem give in to peer pressure. You need to boost your son's self-esteem. This time it was cigarettes, next time will it be drugs, alcohol, stealing...?
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