Being abused is a syndrom. I was abused growing up and didn't know any better, so I married it. You don't know how to get out of it. You are afraid. You don't know how to stop it. The abuser has convinced you that you aren't smart enough to be on your own. When he hurts you, it's your fault. You try to be perfect for him, but just about anything will set him off. It could be a careless driver on the way home. Then he will look for something to "get" you for. I didn't read the post you are talking about, but I've seen a few and I've been there. It took me a lot of years to figure things out. Divorced the physical abuser, then married an emotional abuser. After that, I had to spend time alone to figure out my problem. My daughter helped with that. Glad she's smart.
at 12:39 PM on Mar. 6, 2011