my DH's "free" car has already cost us 2000 in repairs recently, and now needs another 1800, which we just dont have, and the mechanic even said it isnt worth it. So, we need to get another car for him to drive. Well, we already have the "family" car, and it is more than i ever wanted to pay for a car. So, we have looked into what we can afford (though sadly I was hoping to put any extra money into getting us a bigger apartment (5 people in a 2 bedroom just isnt working out so well)), and we cannot go over 150/ month for another car payment. DH got approved for 12000 for a car loan through the bank. I told him we should still look for a car tha is way under that.. something that is in good condition, etc... but we dont need anything fancy. It will be used just to get him to and from work. So, what does he do? He goes looking at a used Chrystler 300 today! WTF? He and I both know that is way over what we agreed on, but it is all he has been looking for online since we decided to start looking. He says "oh, Im just looking for fun", but then he really goes and drives one today...
Its his dream car. I understand he is going to try to get one, but he needs to be realistic. He is going to stretch this as far as he can, and I am not happy. We need some crappy used $5000 ford escort or something, ya know? Sure it would be great for him to get something really nice, but we simply cant afford it right now. We are barely scraping by. I wish we didnt even need a second car but we just do.
I dont even know what to say to him. I hate being the responsible one, but I am. He is repairing his bad credit, mine is great! This is one reason we have seperate bank accounts. Im surprised he got approved for a loan in the first place. I know he is not going to make the best decision, and I am going to be really mad, but if i pipe in and start being 'mommy' and dont let him get his dream car.. well, you know how guys are. I want to be able to trust him to make the right choice, and I know he really wants me to trust him... but I am so afraid this is going to go bad..
What can I do?
Asked by Anonymous at 7:57 PM on Mar. 6, 2011 in Relationships
Answer by newlife627 at 8:01 PM on Mar. 6, 2011
Answer by myheartx4 at 8:07 PM on Mar. 6, 2011
Answer by melody77 at 8:46 PM on Mar. 6, 2011
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