So tonight, my son had his second major over-tired, incoherent, can't stand, wailing and thrashing (though not as bad as the first time). He gets worse if he's touched, spoken to or if you try to accommodate any random request. First time he went almost an hour (I was stunned by the endurance) before he finally settled and passed out. My strategy was to keep all lights in his room out except a night light and I sit and make sure he 1-doesn't hurt himself 2-stays in/on his bed. Anyhow, tonight, he was over 50 minutes, but starting to have longer pauses and sucking on his forearm (his rare self-soother). He was almost asleep. Well, Daddy got tired of listening to him, plucked him out of bed and on the sofa in front of a show he likes. Son stopped immediately (didn't work last time I tried). Then, Daddy proceeds to tell me I'm torturing our son by letting him cry like that. I told him that he was just about asleep and he was fine, just exhausted and unable to cope. I told him that HE was being tortured and took the easy way out by plunking him in front of the TV.
The poor kid was exhausted and almost asleep. He's asleep now, but he didn't doze in front of his show and he's asleep 45 minutes later than he otherwise would have been. It is rare that he sleeps in and he's trying to not nap any more.
I guess I just knew too many young kids that NEVER fell asleep in their own beds and I don't want him to 'need' TV. I despise the idea of TV in a child's room, but we happen to have a spare:/
My son was an always an awesome sleeper, just tougher now that he's got more a mind of his own (i.e. he doesn't want to miss anything) AND he's trying to ditch his naps. His bedtime has always been 9:30-10:30, which is later than I'd like, but Daddy gets home from work at 6 ... I think if my son is going to stop naps altogether, he should go to bed by 7:30-8:30 (he usually sleeps in 'til 7-8). AND I think he should fall asleep in his own bed, even if he is over-tired.
It makes me feel like a bitch, but I think it is healthier. For what it's worth, Daddy always falls asleep to the TV and over half the time I have to turn the darn thing off, frequently at 3am.
For the record, Daddy and I hardly talk, let alone discuss parenting issues. A big problem, I know, but it is what it is ...
Am I being too much of a hardass by letting my son meltdown to sleep?
Actually, last time my son was coherent for a few minutes from completion of meltdown to head on the pillow. AND the night following the first meltdown, he almost did it again, but seemed to gather his senses, lay down and close his eyes instead. That was a few weeks ago, I've been better about getting him into bed before meltdown point in the meantime.
Answer by myheartx4 at 9:08 PM on Mar. 6, 2011
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Answer by khedy at 12:04 AM on Mar. 7, 2011
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