Last Friday night my dh went out to the bar with some friends after work and told me he was planning on coming home around 8. I know he needs guy time and understand he needs to get away sometimes. An hour after he left I called him to see if he could come home and help me clean out our freezer because it broke during the day and stuff was starting to thaw out; which I didn't know til after he went out. He wouldn't answer his phone but texted me right after I hung up (kinda ticked me off..no reason he couldn't answer). So after I dealt with the freezer by myself (he just couldn't come home); I made the kids supper, gave them baths and was getting ready to put them to bed. I always let my daughter call and say goodnight to her daddy when he is out cuz its helps her sleep. After she is done talking, I take the phone and start talking to him and he is instantly pissed about something (dont know why). I ask him if he was coming soon cuz it was already past the time he said he was coming home and he said (and I quote) "why would i want to come home? when i am there all i do is play xbox. i am there physically but not mentally." It really hurt and don't understand why he would say something like that. It made me feel like he hates being at home and would just rather not ever come home. We talked about it the next day but he couldn't give me a reason why he said it. Doesn't there have to be some sort of truth behind it if he said it?
A little background on our relationship: We have been together for almost 7 yrs, married for 5 in April. 4 1/2 yr old dd and 2 1/2 yr old ds. Things have been okay for the most part but we fight quite a bit. At one point 2 yrs ago we almost split because of both of us being unhappy but we worked through it for the kids. I don't really know if we are totally healed from that yet.
Like I said, input and advice would be appreciated from anybody; but if you feel like being nasty just keep your comments to yourself.
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