So hurt...is it supposed to be this way?

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  Answered at 11:20 PM on Nov. 21, 2008 by: chyna_doll
  
  he sounds like he needs to see a therapist, could be something actually wrong.
• Answered at 11:21 PM on Nov. 21, 2008 by: Kenzies_momma
  
  I might be Bipolar. Maybe he should go and try to talk to a therapist.
• Answered at 11:22 PM on Nov. 21, 2008 by: Kenzies_momma
  
  I meant HE, not ME!!!!
• Answered at 11:24 PM on Nov. 21, 2008 by: sophiafarris
  
  I've had the thought (about the being bipolar). I know he's had problems in his past...emotional issues with his family and what not, but if there's something he's still not come to terms with, he won't talk to me about it, and holy smokes, if I suggested that he go talk to a therapist (of which there have been a few over his lifetime thus far) he would freak out even more, even though I mean it in a good and helpful way (of course, as he and our daughter mean the world to me). I just really don't know what to do or how to go about dealing with it. And I feel so hurt.
• Answered at 11:25 PM on Nov. 21, 2008 by: bellasrose71008
  
  How long has he been doing this for? Sometimes it does escalate to physical violence. I just mean that it could if you don't deal with it. Not all men just hit their wives right away. Sometimes they start off slowly. an angry bout here, an angry bout there and then oneday he will hit you. but by then he will already know how to manipulate you psychologically. He will have already worn you down. so just be careful. deal with the problem now. don't settle for anything less than to be treated with respect. It sounds as if he has anger issues. Even if he is incredibly unhappy with life or himself or whatever doesn't mean that he should be so mean. Good luck.
• Answered at 11:25 PM on Nov. 21, 2008 by: hinson7169
  
  I think you should pray about it and pray with him and tell him God can make everything better for you all . Hope it helped God bless
• Answered at 11:27 PM on Nov. 21, 2008 by: bellasrose71008
  
  Lol Kenziesmom! I had to reread it but that was funny.
• Answered at 11:30 PM on Nov. 21, 2008 by: Kenzies_momma
  
  My SO and I were in the same situation. I didn't know what to do either. I figured it had something to do with his past (he was sexually abused). So, I suggested we go and see a "couples" therapist, but I found one that dealt with bipolar and anger problems too. I went with him to all of them and it seems to have worked for us so far. We only went for about a month and for the last six months we have been doing alot better. The therapist got to his anger and bipolar during the sessions, so I guess I kind of tricked him in a way. Good Luck!
• Answered at 11:30 PM on Nov. 21, 2008 by: MythicMMM
  
  maybe he is bi-polar? my beau is like that to an extent and I know for fact his mom is bi-polar. she acts exactly (if not worse than) like you described. it is like walking on egg shells with him some times. I've found just pretending everything is normal and not my fault till he clues me in as to WTH is going on in his head ( some times it takes a lot of prying and he gets irritated with me asking questions, but it works) and am able to take appropriate action.
  
  I hope that helps in some way.
• Answered at 11:32 PM on Nov. 21, 2008 by: sophiafarris
  
  It hasn't been going on very long at all. I think it's sort of a relatively new thing, honestly. Most of it has started since we had our baby in June, and I think that's part of it. It's definitely stressful. For me too! But we've been married almost a year and a half, and have been together for a long time, so in the scheme of our relationship, this is a very recently developed thing.

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