My father was killed when I was 13 . He was a police officer who was killed on the line of duty on Sept, 11th, 2001 at the WTC. I tried to vent to my friend about it and i never ever speak about it to be honest. I just starting going to support groups now, 10 yrs later.
I've had 3 people tell me "get over it, it's been 10 yrs already".
I wanted to jump across the table and slap them but that wouldn't change anything. How do you deal with ignorance among friends and inlaws?
Not talking about it isn't healthy and if i don't vent I hold it all in and just get really depressed, being a mother, I can't sit and mope and lay in bed all day, that's why i try to talk about it to close friends, but nobody gets it. Esp. since their parents are still alive.
The support groups have helped,.but I'd like to be able to speak to frends and family about it without being told Get over it. [Family meaning not immediate, great aunts, inlaws ect.]
Answer by misses_nick at 3:25 PM on Mar. 7, 2011
I think you just need to be honest with them and say something like "I understand it has been 10 years and it is still very hard for me. I am not looking for anything other than someone to listen to me." Although this may sound harsh maybe ask them something like "if you were in my shoes would you be able to just get over it?" No one who has never been there can really understand what you are going through. I think the support groups are a great thing and while talking to people that are close to can help, I think the support groups might help even more because you are talking to people who full understand what you are going through.
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