Ok, I have a pretty decent job, and with my paycheck alone I can pay our monthly bills, but have very little left over. DH's paycheck typically goes toward his student loans, about $100/month into our savings/emergency fund, and he puts money into DD's account (for a car, school, wedding etc. when she gets older). We are now expecting a second child and instead of putting money into DD's account, we are setting aside that extra money for baby stuff, DD's birthday and Christmas (which will all be needed around the same time, right after the baby is born, and while I am not working).
I know it sounds stupid, but I almost feel like we are taking away from DD by keeping this money for the new baby. Once I get back to work we plan on putting the same amount of money into each of the kids' accounts, less than we do now for DD, but money to both of them either way. I feel bad that DD is going to miss an entire year of money into her account because we are expecting a second child. I can't just not buy baby stuff, though. And I would feel even worse if DD didn't get anything for birthday/Christmas. And we can't afford to put money into both an account for DD and for baby/birthday/Christmas. :-(
What would you do? Would you feel bad about it, or am I overreacting?
Asked by Anonymous at 6:26 PM on Mar. 7, 2011 in General Parenting
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