My husband and his sister had a fight. During the fight his sister told him he was a bad parent and that she will never come to his house for anything so don't bother inviting her. So, my husband and his sister stopped talking. This was in December.
Our daughter's birthday party was Saturday. We did not invite his sister... see reasons above. She just shows up.. never called. She walks in univited. She mumbles hi while looking at her cell phone. She wouldn't make eye contact with me. I then said, Hi S." She looks up from her phone and says, " I just said hi to everyone."... and walks into the other room. Her mother (my MIL) comes out of the other room. I said to her "so S. came?" She says, "well she wanted to see the kids" I told my husband how his sister snapped at me and came to the party univited after saying a lot of hurtful things.
Later that night my husband calls his mom (my MIL) to tell her how upset we were that his sister just showed up and snapped. His mother says she was nice to everyone and it was very courageous for her to show up at the party.. and that we took her comments
(see above) the wrong way.
I am still very upset by this. I just don't understand why she didn't call ahead to smooth out stuff with her brother (my husband) and why she snapped at me? Why my MIL is ok with it all, and is twisting it around on my husband. If she wanted to see the kids why didn't she use another time then our daughter's second birthday?
Would you be upset? How would you handle it?
it sounds to me like she wanted to see the kids and is embarrassed and too proud to outright apologize for what happened in dec. i'm not saying that's the right way to go about it, but i think that's what happened. i would give her a second chance....it sounds like she didn't make a scene, that's why i think she showed up to make amends rather than to create drama. some people are just pig-headed and don't like to apologize, but they know they're wrong that's why they're embarrassed. that's what i get from what you just described.
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