Hello...Try to keep this short..Been with husband 7 yrs, married 3 next week...2 months into marrige ex told 2 out of 3 ( triplets) to go move in with you F#@@ father and me...At that time the boys made it sound like they were being abused so of course I said yes..
I got into an accident, I'm partially crippled now..yeah for me...can't work, my life is at a halt but I try to still do whatever I can and deal with the pain as best I can...
Now they are 14, we moved into a much nicer home, better schools, etc...the ego's are huge...both are special ed, but only one is I think semi challenged, but his dad or mom will never hear of it...snobs...high mantience people....Kids get into fights, one is mr. drama...the past school year they have become strangers to me...from calling me mom and loving me, visa versa, now they are rude, disrepectful, want full attention all the time when they are around from their dad, just know it all teenagers...I always could talk to them, especially the "normal" one...I always asked on a monthly basis, did anyone ask you to smoke, cig's, pot, drink, he always answered me....last time I asked he flipped out and said your just like my mom....defensive ....well, we have parental controls that pick up keywords, which led us to him talking to a freind about smoking pot...busted..his dad refuses to say anything, then he will know he's spying on him...okay, what if it said heroin??? hello!!!! do something....I have a 19 yr old that took the wrong path and I know, believe me I know and he witnessed it all....so in weeks me and that son are finally small talking....now the other twin, the creepy weird but sweet one, just got back from their moms house, and per usual they act different..but never did he ever act like a disrepectful nasty child...After almost 3 years I had it...I told my husband so as well...We are trying to work on our marrige( He messed up big time, no cheating but close) and I forgave him and he is in thearpy, and working on it....because I love him...I'd never get back with anyone before in my life who even blinked the wrong way....But I have too many years vested in him, I gave up everyone to be with him....he's all I have...I watch him be a doormat to his ex wife, now to his children, and I just cannot take it anymore...I want them gone, out, back with their mother....She is a stuck up witch, but abusive, no...and now they say I'm just like her, and the reason they moved in was of her, then why stay??? cause they get away with murder here with their dad...no rules, regulations, boundries....what's good for them is not for us....What is suppose to be our master bathroom, they use all the time I had to put a lock on it...my husband leaves it open at night due to it's the only one upstairs...I have to hear his weird child in and out of it every ten minutes all night long...he is werid...So back to locking it at night, so I get more additude...How do I get them to leave??? I told my husband with many tears I reached my breaking point...They won, they beat me down....I hate threats, ultimatums, but it's that bad...were so happy when it's just us, like 2 kids in love...and he's no youngster....I'm sick yet I feel alive when it's just us....no blaming whats wrong with me on him, nothing...we are so very happy...then they come back and suck the joy out of my life....
SO I told him, no more..I cannot do it, I reached my end..he witnessed his son abuse me verbally and emotionally tonight, finally in front of him!!!! for once!!!! told him they have to move...he said no, they are not gifts that we can return....it's all ego with him...between him and his ex...defeated , him, show her, never....so I told him no judge in his right mind would ever let a singe man have custody of the twins over the natural mother who is remarried( she don't want them) then I told him I'd be so hurt and that would turn to me being so pissed off that I'd use what I have and show the judge and he would loose the boys ( I can't say what I have but it's not good, it's nothing a grown man should have) so he would be all alone and most likely worse off in the end....He took that as a threat...I told him it wasn't, just being honest because I know myself....I am here to stay for life, my vows this time around meant something to me, I forgave this man for something that broke me into a million peices.. He did me so wrong when I was at my worse...he still is working on making it up to me, hence we go to therapy once a week...so I guess I'm just looking for some advice.....They are good when they want to be boys..but spoiled beyond the word....materialistic they have anything and everything any child could ever want....love they have more than they want.....They are rude, stuck up and disrepectful...They are ruining my life, which is pretty much ruined as it is...I have spinal injury that can never be fixed, permanant..I can walk, with a cane....I have become very humbled..Thanks for listening....Peace...
Answer by Kattie825 at 1:18 AM on Mar. 8, 2011
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