Last year in October I had a rough time in my marriage, I posted on Cafe mom about it and the post is still open if you would like to know exactly what happened. Here is an update: The hubby is back home, we are living with his mom and step dad, we had our 3rd baby on 3-4-11 . We seem to have a stronger marriage, now here is the dilemma. I feel odd when he is sitting on the computer, or when he gets a text. I get jealous when he goes out, even if he has someone with him. I get nervous when he hangs with his brother( i think he is a male whore...the brother that is). I cry when he don't socialize with me...I sound like a teenager I know right. I feel weird and I cannot lose my marriage again he is not saying to make me think it but it is part of the insecurity that came with the problems. So ladies advice please. And please no bashing, I would not bash anyone so I ask you do not me or my marriage. Thank you.Answer Question
Answer by Hatsumomo at 3:26 PM on Mar. 8, 2011
Answer by Anonymous at 3:27 PM on Mar. 8, 2011
Answer by MaryMW at 3:46 PM on Mar. 8, 2011
Answer by 2boysnaprincess at 4:10 PM on Mar. 8, 2011
I looked at your October question - your feelings are understandable, does he still talk/text this woman every day? His actions are the reason you feel this way and it seems like he hasn't done enough to earn back your trust. Unfortunately the unresolved feelings of hurt and mistrust will lead to more problems if they are not confronted. You and your DH either need to start having very honest and open discussions about these feelings, or attend marriage counseling to get help confronting the issues. None of this is your fault - it was his actions that have caused your insecurity and if he wants the marriage to work than he needs to fix the damage he caused.
Answer by momof2inCT2007 at 5:20 PM on Mar. 8, 2011