I am about to end my marriage because I cant handle it anymore...
I have a 2 year old ( bio ) daughter and a 12 year old step daughter.... When my husband and I first got together it was great ( of course) and I love my step daughter... but she is just such a huge brat and just gets worse.
She use to listen to me and would behave very well, I use to beable to take her places and do fun activites together and everything, but now because her mother and her father are idiots she just throws a constant fit...
She is 12 year old - dresses like an 18 year old... They dont care if her boobs are hanging out, if she has a ton of makeup on, that she talks on the phone to 16 year old boys ( more than one) , that she will go to a friends house for the whole weekend without being checked in on ( her friend is equally as wild as her so I think that is cause to worry ) or even that she was caught drinking !!! ..... My husband use to be very active in her life and almost over-protective but now that she acts like this and since his ex wife ripped him a new one about telling their daughter that she isnt aloud to do this stuff he became a wimp and gave up on even trying to make her do anything.
Now I am just a step mom, I never planned on taking over as her full time mom or anything like that...... BUT **I** am the one expected to take her everywhere, to make sure she is doing good in school, ** I ** am the one who basically gets in trouble when she does something bad...( like when I went to pick her up from friends house and she wasnt there, I frantically called husband and her mom to figure out what to do to find her, they both were mad at me, yelling at me because I couldnt find her - even though I said she shouldnt even go to that friends house anyways) ....
So I cant say anything about her not doing things, but then when she does it, it is my fault.....
I am so sad that my step daughters life is going to be a hell and one big mistake after another --- I think she is old enough to know not to be doing these things.... but yet it is HER PARENTS fault for not stopping her ....I am tired of not being able to have a say and not being able to even try to help her, but expected to take the brunt of it...
Asked by Anonymous at 3:27 PM on Mar. 8, 2011 in Parenting Debate
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