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Is this odd,or am I overreacting?

First off,my son has moderate autism. he's 9,almost 10
He has this friend at school,Drew,who is always hanging on him. Hugging him,trying to hold his hand,basically getting in his personal space. The school has already told Drew to keep his hands to himself. When they've had playdates,I have had to tell Drew to leave him alone. His mom doesn't say anything. My son is not one for touching people.Drew's mom claims he's neuro-typical,but his actions say otherwise.
Do you think its normal for a boy of 9 1/2 to hug and want to hold hands with another boy?


Asked by butterflyblue19 at 5:10 PM on Mar. 8, 2011 in Tweens (9-12)

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Answers (13)
  • My son is 9 and I have to believe that he would really freak out if another boy tried to hold his hand, or even hug him. I hug him and his sister hugs him, but his male friends do not. I do not consider this normal behavior. I have seen this behavior in special needs children at this age as well. I think you are wise to keep a close on on this child when he is around your child.

    Answer by spottedpony at 5:25 PM on Mar. 8, 2011

  • Butterflyblue19

    I honestly would not even begin to guess.. I just do not have enough experience with children with disabilities to be able to give you an honest (much less good/helpful) answer.

    I'll BUMP you though... I hope you get some helpful answers.

    Answer by pixie_trix at 5:13 PM on Mar. 8, 2011

  • I don't know about normal for each person, but I've never witnessed a child like that with another. Obviously he is not getting the no touch rule. I would lessen their play dates, or even stop till you feel otherwise.


    Answer by Christine0813 at 5:13 PM on Mar. 8, 2011

  • So this other child does not have autism? I've taught both 4th and 5th grade, and no, this is not normal for boys of this age group. However, this behavior fits in more with special needs students I've worked with.

    Answer by gratefulmom913 at 5:16 PM on Mar. 8, 2011

  • Nope and I would no longer have the play dates.

    Answer by bcauseimthemom at 5:27 PM on Mar. 8, 2011

  • It does seem strange to me. My boys (12 & 16) and their friends hug occassionally but its not to this extent by any means.

    Answer by blessedwboysx3 at 5:43 PM on Mar. 8, 2011

  • That depends. Some children are more affectionate then others. However, in the manner that you're speaking I would say that he has other intentions.

    Answer by JazzlikeMraz at 5:52 PM on Mar. 8, 2011

  • I've stopped taking their calls and I say I'm busy when we run into them. THIS behavior plus the fact that the mom lets her kids roam free wherever we go concerns me. We met at the library once and Drew took my son upstairs to the main floor when I told him i wanted my son to stay in the kid's section. My son doesn't know enough to not let himself be taken if someone should try that.

    Comment by butterflyblue19 (original poster) at 5:17 PM on Mar. 8, 2011

  • 9 ish , yeah

    Answer by letstalk747 at 5:17 PM on Mar. 8, 2011

  • His mom sayshe's not on the spectrum,yes. His older brother does however,and I suspect Drew does as well

    Comment by butterflyblue19 (original poster) at 5:18 PM on Mar. 8, 2011