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Does your dh ask permission before spending time with his friends?

My dh and I have never asked each other before making plans. Of course, we give each other a heads up if we make plans. I know that doesn't work for everyone and some men would take too much advantage with that arrangement. Just curious.


Asked by Mel_in_PHX at 12:14 AM on Mar. 9, 2011 in Relationships

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  • LMAO no, he doesn't and neither do I. We're grown ups, not each others parents. We usually let the other know about plans, but sometimes we don't have an opportunity to (we live in a rural area where you have to be in the town limits to get a cell signal, and he works way out of this town, and usually doesn't take his phone anyway).

    Answer by Mrs.BAT at 12:30 AM on Mar. 9, 2011

  • I don't like to think that he's "asking permission" but yeah in a way I guess he is...if he gets less than a favourable response from me he doesnt lol

    Answer by Lucky209 at 12:18 AM on Mar. 9, 2011

  • He asks me only because he works pretty much ALL the time (not exaggerating) so what little time we are able to spend together is precious. Being a very nice wife, I'm usually fine with him spending time with his friends because he doesn't ask very often. On my end, he's never home so I don't ask to go out, I just ask if it's ok to spend money (if needed)

    Answer by alinker at 12:17 AM on Mar. 9, 2011

  • lol lucky...

    Comment by Mel_in_PHX (original poster) at 12:19 AM on Mar. 9, 2011

  • We don't ask permission from each other to do anything, just out of respect we give each other notice of upcoming plans though.

    Answer by Kathy675 at 12:20 AM on Mar. 9, 2011

  • He doesn't ask permission. He does check in out of respect to see if I need him or if we have other plans. He doesn't go out without me very often, so I try to accommodate his plans whenever possible.

    Answer by balagan_imma at 12:41 AM on Mar. 9, 2011

  • My husband has taken advantage of it in the past. So it's become the "asking" game.....Honestly all the trust isn't there still, but I just expect a heads up and that he respect that I also need that time with my friends as well.

    Answer by CABlonde at 12:44 AM on Mar. 9, 2011

  • We always check with each other before making plans with friends. What if i was planning a nice dinner and he called to say he was going out with friends when I've got food in the oven? Or what if he wanted to do something special with me, but I had other plans and failed to tell him? We are showing each other courtesy and respect rather than asking for permission.

    Answer by Crystal1124 at 1:40 AM on Mar. 9, 2011

  • usually, but there has been times years ago where he has just done it. but he knows that will cause such a huge fight.

    Answer by jenn4443 at 4:26 AM on Mar. 9, 2011

  • No. He is aware of all our family obligations and my expectations. If he chooses to do something different he just lets me know.

    Answer by meooma at 8:20 AM on Mar. 9, 2011