We have a son (22) who fathered a 9 mo. old boy w/his girlfriend (18). They are no longer together and she lives about 35 mins away from us. She was bringing the baby over to see us about every 2 weeks and now it's been a month. Since she doesn't communicate with us very often, I called her yesterday morning to see when she might bring him by for us to see him. She didn't answer, so I left a msg. She immediately text me back letting me know she was at work and wanted to know, "what's up". I text back asking when she was going to bring the baby by, that it had already been a month. She went all "off" on me with a rude & disrespectful text (sacrcastic), about how she works and didn't realize she HAD to bring him by on a regular basis and that IF and WHEN she does it will be at HER convenience. It took about 4 texts for her to put all she she had to say to me. This is one reason why I hate texting, in such cases, as people can sometimes be much more rude than they would ever be on the phone. My hands were shaking so badly that I couldn't even text back. I had so many things I COULD have said in a text, but none of them would have been nice, so I opted to take the "high road" and not go there. I won't stoop to her level of being rude, as it is non-productive and wouldn't be beneficial to my seeing our grandson.
I went to the phone book and looked up lawyers who specialize in family law. I am going to a consultation to see what we can do to visit with our grandchild without her. She is immature and is using her child against us, as she has issues with my son. It is difficult since I am not used to dealing with someone on a personal level who is being so rude, disrespectful and immature. It would be so much easier if she would communicate w/us better and try to do what's best for the child. It's a crying shame that I have to retain a lawyer to make sure she does right by him and lets us have our time with him.
What would you do in this situation? I'm all about handling things peacefully and acting like a mature adult.
Asked by Anonymous at 7:33 AM on Mar. 9, 2011 in Relationships
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