Little background...my bil died in August and he left 2 girls, 12 and 17. They both came to live with my in-laws down the road from us. The younger one left because she missed her mom (who's a pill-popping mess right now) and went back home. Much to my dismay.
The 17 y/o is still here but having a really hard time at my in-laws. My mil (step!!!) never had children and has recently been going through the change or something but has turned into a major b. Even getting physical with my fil, who just sits there and takes it.
My mil and I DO NOT get along for anything (our history, she tried to hit me while I nursed my 5 week preemie...I HATE her. Strong words but she is just evil!!!) and now she won't let her come down here or do anything because they caught our niece lying about where she was. The b. has grounded her for 3 months and won't even let her go to church.
My take is that she wouldn't have to lie if they wouldn't give her so much flack. Yesterday the b. got mad because niece was wearing a jacket her boyfriend gave her...SO!!! She is really a very negative person and niece has told me she cries every night. She really needs a positive place to work through her stuff about her dad. And also becoming a woman. It's a lot for her right now and she needs family to support her and love her.
She wants to come live with us. Her mom told her she doesn't care if she's not happy...it's her fault and she can deal with it (that is just beyond my scope of being a compassionate mama).
My question...do I try to get custody of her, try to get her emancipated (she could always live with us even though she should get ss from her dad) or something else? I can't turn my back and her and I want to really champion for her! She is a good girl who wants to go into the Air Force after she graduates. I don't want to see her spirit crushed and stepped on by the people who are supposed to support and build her up. And this is a family where you kiss butt, crap talk behind your back, never talk about anything...I don't fit in;O)
O-and I have no problem with being a b. if it means our niece is heard.
Asked by Anonymous at 9:40 AM on Mar. 9, 2011 in Teens (13-17)
Answer by amybaby_19 at 9:43 AM on Mar. 9, 2011
At her age, emancipation. Custody I think would take longer and be more involved. I have no idea how to even go about that though. My own niece looked into it, I will ask her if she can at least point you in the right direction.
Goodluck, and GOOD FOR YOU for taking care of her and speaking out!
Answer by CookieMom108 at 9:52 AM on Mar. 9, 2011
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