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My daughter's 19 & living on college campus for 1.5 semesters. Since she was 15 she has had a "best friend" 2 years older than her. These 2 have had many tremendous fights, so much so I labeled it a "toxic friendship." They live hours away from each other. My daughter now says that she is gay & this "toxic friend" have been involved for the past 3 years. At the same time she has dated & been interested in guys but has not had sex with a man. She says she dated a girl at college for 2 months which I thought was experimenting. She fights weight problems and doesn't have the highest self esteem, so I wonder if she keeps going back the the "familiar" with this friend. Even worse, the fights these two girls have had over the years have left me with very bad feelings towards this girl. I don't know what to believe. If she's never been with a man, how can she know for sure. We were so close & I never suspected. What's your thoughtsAnswer Question
Answer by gemgem at 6:37 PM on Mar. 9, 2011
Answer by Anouck at 6:37 PM on Mar. 9, 2011
Answer by musicpisces at 6:40 PM on Mar. 9, 2011
What she needs right now more than anything is your unconditional love, no matter what her sexuality. Her sexual preference is not for YOU to determine, and realize that sexuality is fluid. There are not specific categories that people HAVE to fit into. If she primarily dates women, but occasionally dabbles in dating men, that's okay. She is the only one who can determine what's right for her. She may end up with a man, but more likely, she'll end up with a woman.
You need to find a place where you're okay with that. Have you ever heard of an organization called PFLAG? It might be a good resource for you. Their website is pflag.org. They can give you some wonderful and accurate information to help you learn about what your daughter is going through and how to be supportive of her. Good luck!
Answer by musicpisces at 6:43 PM on Mar. 9, 2011
Answer by Mom-2-3-Girlz at 7:02 PM on Mar. 9, 2011
Answer by jaysmommy04 at 7:18 PM on Mar. 9, 2011
Answer by -AJ at 10:52 PM on Mar. 9, 2011
Answer by Liz4Life at 1:24 PM on Mar. 19, 2011